When Silence Serves Best {Real Conversations Series}

The first time I read her words, Jessica Lauren took me on a journey. Her lyrical style mingles with the power of God’s truth, challenging you to dig deep and lay hold of our Savior’s precious promises. Jessica doesn’t claim to have all the answers, but instead compels you to God’s word to seek every good and right answer in Him. I know that her words will invite you in, so sit a spell, and enjoy some Real Conversation with this Woman of God…

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Her words were consistently few, but her faithful company filled my heart, full of gratitude and grace. Her soft speech and gentle pursuit lead my heart quietly to the comfort of His presence.

There is a unique desire we each have to be encouraged a certain way. I’m a word person and greatly value verbal encouragement, especially in challenging times. But aside from His direct Word, the way God encourages me is often in an unanticipated fashion; from a completely unexpected vessel.

What matters most is to recognize God’s faithfulness to meet us.

Rather than place emphasis on our own expectations, which often leave us feeling frustrated and let down. And if in God’s infinite wisdom, the silence of a friend’s company is the way He chooses to encourage me, this ‘word girl’ is welcoming it, heart wide open.

It’s certainly clear from Job’s story that sometimes silence serves best.

“And when they raised their eyes from afar, and did not recognize him, they lifted their voices and wept; and each one tore his robe and sprinkled dust on his head toward heaven. So they sat down with him on the ground seven days and seven nights, and no one spoke a word to him, for they saw that his grief was very great.” Job 2:12-13 NKJ

Imagine that? Women sitting beside each other seven entire days and not speaking a single word.

No one spoke a word to him, for they saw that his grief was very great.

Oh, to SEE more and SPEAK less. Because beloved, there are hearts that bleed, mouths to feed, and we can’t simply slap a scripture on the broken saying, “Jesus is all you need.”

Real compassion moves us.

“When Job’s three friends … heard about all the troubles that had come upon him, they set out from their homes and met together by agreement to go and sympathize with him and comfort him.” Job 2:11 NIV

So, they sat down with him on the ground. Because to share God’s gift of grace, sometimes means bringing the best of our gifts to the grit of the ground. To stoop down in some dirt and sit beside the sorrowful, regarding their needs above convenience and reputation. It’s what Christ did.

He sat down with sinners, kneeled down beside the broken, leaned down towards the lonely. He was always reaching down.

And … to lift another up, it demands we get humbled down.

Down from selfish ambition and holier-than-thou thrones.

Because the quick impulse to size up a sister or stranger’s situation, can only be halted with compassionate humility. As I wrap this truth around my heart, I marvel in deeper awe at Him who carried His cross, letting His very life be nailed down upon it.

 “Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.” John 15:13 NKJ 

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Though some days the battle for ‘self-love’ seems to win, I truly desire to lay down even the seemingly smallest of sins—everything that keeps me from living and loving Jesus style. He challenges me: Will I lay down my pride, come sit down beside, and serve someone who has hurt me? Because the truth is …

To truly be the extension of His love, we must become the expression of His humility. ( <===Click to Tweet )

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” Phil. 2:3-4 NKJ

Am I willing to continually serve silently, when I’m begging to be heard? Job’s friends clearly had compassion as they shared the ground beside him. However, as their lips began to move, their speech wasn’t as soft and wise as their silence.

Lord, let my words be few. That I might quietly walk beside the broken and silently sit down among the hurting.


I’m reminded of that friend whose words have always been so few, yet her silent companionship has shown me (a word person) such deep compassion. And my husband reminds me, “Your eyes and expression will convey more about your care, than the choicest of words.”

Lord, let my words be few. And beloved, the blessed thing is …

When we come alongside others, Christ closely comes alongside us.

Jess -Headpic1Jessica Lauren dwells in grace as a Daughter of God, thankful wife and grateful Mama. Encourager at heart, she has a passion for people and their real stories. In her own journey towards wholeness, she has come to trust in the power of God’s Word, to rewrite, redeem and reshape the story line of every woman’s heart – with freedom, grace and truth. When she’s not reading, studying or penning praise, she can be found browsing WholeFoods, baking gluten-free or strolling along the river. Writing from her heart and His Word at Masters Calling, Jessica encourages women to embrace each season in their journey to becoming–the beauty of becoming whole, holy and more like Him! You can connect with Jessica on her blog and Twitter.

I invite you to join us next week for more of the Real Conversation Series. If you’ve missed any so far, we welcome you in:

Who Would Be Beside You? {Real Conversations Series: Intro}
Being Independent Doesn’t Have to Leave You Lonely {Real Conversations: Meredith Bernard}
The Beauty of Belonging {Real Conversations: Abby McDonald}

You can also find these words linked up at my favorite spots:  Holly Barrett (#testimonytuesday), Kelly Balarie (#raralinkup), Holley Gerth (#coffeeforyourheart), Kristin Hill Taylor (#threewordwednesday), Bonnie Gray (#faithbarista), and Jennifer Dukes Lee (#tellhisstory).

24 thoughts on “When Silence Serves Best {Real Conversations Series}

  1. I hate I missed this when it originally posted, but I’m glad I’m here today, Jessica. This really hit me hard, “there are hearts that bleed, mouths to feed, and we can’t simply slap a scripture on the broken saying, “Jesus is all you need.” That’s so true. And from someone who struggles to want to fix everything with word or deed, sometimes just being and being still and quiet is the best gift I can give. Thank you for this! <3

    1. I’m learning too Meredith – how to give the gift of Seeing More and speaking less! I’m blessed by the gift of your presence here. Blessings of His peace and rest to you today.

  2. Hello Jessica, I needed this today.
    Keep silence and listen more is really what I need to do. Will be saying your prayers too..’Lord let my words be few’
    Many Blessings Jessica and thanks Tiffany

  3. “Am I willing to continually serve silently, when I’m begging to be heard?” Wow, Jessica, such a powerful question, and a difficult one! Coming over as your neighbor from Bonnie’s and being challenged.

    1. So glad to have your heart here Julie! I’m learning that sometimes the very questions that challenge us, are the very ones that offer freedom the moment we answer a ‘surrendered yes’! (And only grace gets us to ‘yes’!)
      May your weekend be filled with His peace and joy!!

  4. This is beautiful and true, Jessica. Thanks for hosting these meaningful conversations, Tiffany. And for linking this one up at #ThreeWordWednesday. :)

  5. “Sometimes silence serves best.” I love this. You are so right. I think sometimes people don’t value silence enough. They feel they must say something to encourage. Unfortunately, that sometimes results in hurt feelings rather than encouragement. Thank you for your beautiful post.

    1. Elizabeth,
      Thank-you so much for being here today! I’m with you in your comment – I want to be quick to listen, slow to speak.. Because the more I see with His eyes, the more my heart is moved with compassion and the less my mouth is moved with my own words. Your presence here is a blessing!

  6. I’m most encouraged by words too, so that’s how I typically want to encourage others. But it’s not always the best. Yes, sometimes silence is a great gift to give. The gift of presence, of just showing up, is something I’m learning more and more. Thanks for the words of encouragement here though! :)

    1. Me too Lisa!! I think of how God gave both His Word and His presence – all in one… And I’m learning when I ‘let my words be few’ – I make more room for His Word to speak! I’m so blessed you visited here today!

    1. Yes Karrilee I hear you!!

      I’ve been saying this often lately – “Lord, let my words be few, that I might speak a less and see a whole lot more! Thanks Karrilee for being here today!

  7. I love your challenge today for our words to be few. There is a real gift in being truly “present” with another person. It requires discipline to listen and allow the other person to speak without always interjecting. Thank you for these words today. Visiting you from Testimony Tuesday.

    1. Mary you are so right – it’s a beautiful gift to still our thoughts and ‘really’ listen to the heart of another! Blessings of His of quiet rest and love to you today, Mary!

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